Sex sells... Love fails?

 It's obvious that sex is one of the biggest attrations of life; it's like an amusement ride none of us ever want to get off of, or keep running back to for more. It's a way of life and some people need it more than they believe they need food or drink. For some it's their income, for others a hobby. There are some people that see sex as an addiction, while for others, it's a way of showing affection. Men view sex so much more differently than women do. But what's up with sex really? I mean, there really is more to life than a few minutes or hours of sex. Yeah, I know, you're thinking... this ladies crazy... stupid... doesnt know what fantastic sex it, blah, blah, blah....

Sex is how we all got here right, it had to start from somewhere? While this is true, why is it that sex has become what people look forward to the most? TV Shows, movies, internet ads, etc... we all buy into it, like kids to a candy shop. We spend loads of money on sexual items and novelties, enhancements, pills, movies and then some.

Ok... so get to the point already right?

Well, here we go...

Considering both aspects and opinions of men and women I have three points to make here.

1. After being in a relationship for years, sex between most couples dies. This is on either both genders fault, or just ones. But why does the sex die and why is it important to a relationship (or so people believe it's important to a relationship)?   There are several reasons for this happening, the most common being, children tend to be a large "interupter" or "burden" on the whole sex life. Another reason, stress and finances. This is purhaps one of the biggest reasons the sex life dies and in a hurry. Another big reason; adultury. This usually happens as an outcome of the first two reasons. But see, if sex wasn't such a big deal in a relationship, and each person in the relationship could be understanding and patient of each others emotions and stresses, adultury would probably not be an outcome because of everything else. If you fix all the other problems in the relationship and work together as a team to resolve the problems, the sex in the relationship might actually start to thrive again.
2. If one person in the relationship becomes ill or develops health problems, why make a big deal over sex? For a lot of people, health is an issue in their sex life and it can be hard keeping a relationship alive if sex is a big issue in the relationship. The upside, for a lot of health problems, by talking with your doctor, sex issues can be fixed; most of the time.
3. Why mess up a good thing, if you love each other, shouldnt that be good enough? For hundreds of years, men and women slept in different beds under the same roof and only came together when they had time for sex or wanted sex. Now I'm not saying things should be that way again, cause in my opinion that was just dumb, I enjoy cuddling and snuggling way too much with my spouse at bed time, but most of the time these relationships lasted till death and it was because the couple truely loved each other enough to come together more than physically. If couples could reach a higher level in their relationships, sex wouldnt be an issue. But for many love really isn't good enough, they need more.

I see commercials all the time about male and female enhancements, bettering performance, making love making or sex sessions last longer, postitioning and the use of toys. While that's all good and exciting, those things are not important or significant to the overall relationship. Again though, sex sells and we all buy into it; maybe I should have bought up some stock in the sex toy market.... I'm dreaming of all the millions I could be living off of now... WOW! But darn it, I didn't.

 I've seen it time and time again, relationships falling by the wayside because the couple just couldn't get past the argument that sex is crucial and important to a relationship. It's sad especially when children are involved. Now I understand when relationships fail because of other reasons, but because the wife wouldn't give it up 4 times a day to the husband... come on, that's just ridiculous.

Women might be able to relate a little bit better to this topic then men...

Mothers often don't feel like having sex. There is so much going on in a womans life, that often times, sex is the last thing or the farthest thing from their minds. Men on the other hand, don't seem to get this and become frustrated with women because they arent' giving it up enough.

Men and women listen up....

If your in a relationship and currently have no kids, don't have kids for many years if sex is of utmost importance to your relationship. When your relationship has blossomed some and you both can realize that there's more to a relationship then just sex, then maybe start thinking about kids.

To a woman, sex can be life a chore sometimes, MEN realize this. If you want sex more often, then help to take the stress off your ladies shoulders and... voila! Men, help your woman feel beautiful, learn to walk in her shoes, learn what she lifes and doesnt like and get to know her more than physically. Woman tend to push men away when a man becomes too pushy, touchy or negligent to her world; yes we can be selfish and confusing, learn this.

For a man, sex is a necessity and it's the first thing they thing about when they wake up and the last thing they think about when they go to bed, WOMEN realize this. If you don't feel like having sex, sit down with your man and explain this to him in simple terms, men are not complex creatures who need long explanations and lectures. Learn to grow with them, what makes them tick, what makes them happy, what their expressions are saying at certain times. Be honest with your man, don't beat around the bush about why you don't feel like having sex.

If we learn more about each other and get in each others heads, sex doesn't have to be the most important part of a relationship... it can be life having your cake and eating too.